“For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.”                                                                                                                                                    Romans 8:38-39 (NIV)

I was sitting right next to my husband in the car staring out the window. I felt so disconnected and distant. My mind was a million miles away. For the last few days it was like we were speaking different languages. We just weren’t on the same page in thoughts or actions at all. This left me feeling alone – the inches that separated us were more like miles. 

Similarly, I have been in a crowded room and felt as if I was (or wanted to be) stranded on an island. People around me were speaking but no one was really saying anything. People would ask me a question or try to make conversation and I only responded with empty answers. Because of a recent experience where I felt disappointed or defeated by others, I wouldn’t allow myself to get emotionally drawn in and I wouldn’t allow others to get too close. 

Sometimes the distance between us and others cannot be measured in inches, feet, or miles. The distance we feel is a gap in communication – an invisible, immeasurable canyon keeping us from connecting with those around us. 

In my life, those lonely, isolated emotions are usually self-induced. Left unattended, these feelings can cause a permanent separation or chasm between us and those we love. Depression can grow in the space void of positive relationships and cause one to slip farther and farther away. No matter the cause or length of the separation, it is always work to close the gap, to get back to normal, and to rebuild those bridges. 

Have you ever experienced feelings of being alone in a crowded room, like a distant observer, cut off from caring? The key is to never lose hope – to know we are never truly alone. Nothing can separate us from the love of God.  God can close those emotional gaps for us. He will minimize the distance and bring us back home. 

Even when you are the one pushing people away or hiding behind a mask to disguise your pain, God does not leave your side. You can run away, deny, and refuse His love but it is always there. Nothing can separate us from the love of God. 

The next time you feel abandoned, left out, or distant, reach out to God. He understands and He cares. He will walk with you through the shadows and back into the light of life. Through His unfailing love you can reconnect with others and fill the gap.

“So God created man in His own image, in the image of God He created them, male and female.”                                                                                                           Genesis 1:27 (NIV)

These days most people have a profile picture of some sort whether it is associated with your email address, Facebook, or some form of social media. I say ‘most people’ because I don’t have one. I opened a Facebook account once but never added a picture or even used it. I  haven’t even uploaded a picture for my email. 

When I considered adding a picture of myself I could never commit to one picture … to a picture I thought represented me. Maybe it is because when I look at photos of myself I am too self-conscious about them – I prefer to picture myself as younger and even prettier than that! Just kidding. It goes much deeper.

Scrolling through numerous profile pictures of family, friends, colleagues, and strangers I can best describe them as some humorous, some serious, and some strangely disturbing. I have often wondered … what were they thinking??? I am shocked to see how some people choose to represent themselves. Seriously, there are some ridiculous pictures out there and I have come to believe either people are really self-confident or really naïve.

 I mean, it is called a profile picture for a reason. It is an image chosen specifically to represent you. It is your image to the world – after all, it is on the world wide web. Don’t people realize that the profile picture is the first and sometimes the only impression people get of them? 

This is why I don’t have a profile picture … What if I chose the wrong image? 

I have learned something – I may not have a Facebook account with a picture or a personal image on my email, but in reality I do have a profile picture. The profile I project each day. The image I am showing the world. 

What kind of image am I projecting when I am in the workplace, at home, at the grocery store, or in the car? When people get a glimpse of me, what do they see?

Genesis 1:27 reminds me I am created in the image of God, but is that the image people see when they see me? 

I hope that people see at least a little piece of God through me. That is part of my daily prayer that I might be a reflection of God and that people who I come into contact with will see Him in me. However, I know I’m not consistent. I mess up. During those times, I should shake my head and say, “What was I thinking? … How can I represent God that way?”

One of the great things about a social media profile picture is that you can change it. 

We all mature and gain knowledge day to day and year to year. I doubt the profile picture you chose as a sixteen year old would be the same at the age of 30. 

Today, what’s your profile picture? Serious, humorous, strangely disturbing? But seriously, is it the image of God? Are you sending the right message? Are you making the right first impression?

People see us on the street, in the office, at the store, and in the car. It is our responsibility as Christians to make sure we are reflecting the face of God. That we are living the life we are called to live. 

As you are checking out the profile pictures of others, make sure you keep an eye on your own to be sure it is current and the one you want it to be.

Is it time to update your profile picture? It is never too late to change it.

“I, the Lord, do not change…”                                                                        Malachi 3:6

Swiftly walking with my mind drifting around from one thing to another, I looked up and locked eyes with a kind-looking stranger. I hoped my half smile and generic “Hi, how are you?” would be the only exchange so I could hurry to my destination. As soon as I glanced again, the lady began to share a big smile and an excited, “Hi, I know you. You may not remember me…” 

Scrolling through the rolodex in my brain nothing was clicking… no recognition. She continued, “I would have recognized you anywhere! You haven’t changed a bit! We went to high school together…” Wow – over 25 years ago and this person said she would have known me no matter what. She is good. Much better than me. I stopped and we chatted a little. Catching up on familiar friends and places from the past. Then, we parted ways.

Exchanges like this happen every day to a lot of different people. Nothing unusual. Nothing except I couldn’t quit thinking about the “you haven’t changed a bit” comment. The more it weighed on my mind the more I thought nothing could be farther from the truth. At least that is what I hope. 

I hope I have improved with age. Changed for the better. 

(That 80s hair really was a mistake in many ways… and those leg warmers, yikes!)

But more than the vain, superficial ways in which I hope I have improved, I know my heart has changed.

When you think of your life and the changes you have experienced, have all of those changes been good or positive? Probably not. 

As I reflect on my life and the changes I have experienced, it is more like a roller coaster than a steady incline. I have certainly experienced personal highs and lows. There have been many bright spots (probably more than I deserve) and dark moments as well. 

There are some points in my life of which I am not too proud – down right ashamed. But as I have learned those hard life lessons, I think I have figured it out – finally. 

I know I have changed for the better. 

I have learned the secret of contentment, happiness, and fulfillment. The secret to these things is the one thing that hasn’t changed over the years – and it really isn’t a secret: the Lord. He is the one constant. The catalyst for all that is good in my life.

The Lord does not change. No matter how many changes we go through in our life – fads, fashions, relationships, jobs – He is always the same. What a comfort to know!

I know the person I recently reunited with meant well in saying “you haven’t changed a bit” but I didn’t consider it much of a compliment. Through my life I’ve changed hair color. Gained weight – lost weight – gained it again. But more importantly, my selfish heart was replaced with a heart for helping others; and the biggest change of all are my priorities which I think are finally in order. 

The positive changes of a lifetime have all been through the One who never changes.

So, to my old acquaintance, I would say look again… I have changed in so many ways, my friend. 

I am in a great place personally and spiritually. 

We all change over the years. Whether on the outside or on the inside or both. 

With the Lord by our side we can make sure that those changes are for the better.

“But Moses said to the people, ‘Do not be afraid, Stand firm, and see the deliverance the Lord will accomplish for you today; for the Egyptians whom you see today you shall never see again.’”                                                                             Exodus 14:13 (NRSV)

I had a meeting scheduled with a person I knew would be very difficult. You know – one of those people who begins every encounter offensively, loud and angry. 

I just knew the meeting would go in a bad direction very quickly. I had put off the meeting as long as I could. The time had come to face it and deal with the issue at hand. So prior to the meeting I prayed about the encounter. To my shock and amazement, the meeting went much better than I imagined. Although still angry and upset, the person was not as bad as I feared. I did not give in on my position and God helped me through it. 

I don’t like unpleasant things or confrontation. I must admit, I have walked in a different direction to avoid someone or something I anticipated would be difficult, only to find or be faced with the same situation just around the corner. 

I have learned that when I avoid issues, people, or situations don’t just disappear. Imagine that. The harsh reality is that in life there are and will always be many unpleasant things to deal with and we have to do just that – deal with it!

The great part is we don’t have to deal with it alone. God is on our side.

I tend to view difficulties in life as battles. Battles to be fought; however, I don’t necessarily have to be the one engaged in battle. As long as I stand firm in what I believe, the Lord will take care of the combat Himself.

Over and over again, I “see the deliverance the Lord accomplishes” in my life. The effects of the difficulties I deal with are so much smaller when I allow God to fight for me. Even though I still face those hard times, seemingly impossible situations, and difficult people, I am at peace with it. It is a peace I can’t explain and know can only be given by God. 

God doesn’t just sit back and watch us embroiled in conflicts on our own. He wants to fight for us – to protect and keep us. But we have to let Him.

Much like Moses and the Israelites, we need to listen to God, follow His instructions, and let Him fight. The adversaries of today we don’t have to take on later when we stand our ground and let the Lord do the rest. When we do this, the thing we dreaded the most becomes a victory we boast about down the road. 

Today, it is time for you to quit!

Quit running away. Quit avoiding certain situations. 

Stand your ground on a foundation of Faith – and let God fight for you. He is always in your corner.

“The Lord will fight for you, and you have only to keep still.”    Exodus 14:14

“The Lord went in front of them in a pillar of cloud by day, to lead them along the way, and in a pillar of fire by night, to give them light, so that they might travel by day and by night.” 

Exodus 13:21 (NRSV)

True confession: I have become addicted to those home improvement and home design shows. It drives my husband crazy because I can always find one of those shows to watch 24/7, and as a result, his “Honey Do” list continues to grow.

One thing I have picked up in viewing a design series is the importance of lighting. Just the right light will warm up a space instantly. It can add that finishing touch.

Not so long ago, we added a lamp to our dining room. Wow, what a difference. It made the room so inviting. We catch ourselves walking by that room and commenting about what a great addition that light is to that space … what a huge difference it makes.

Now, that lamp is one of the few we leave on throughout the night. Can you guess why? It certainly isn’t because we are using the light while we sleep. We leave on a couple of lights in various places in the house for the warm, safe glow they provide. Should someone get up in the night, there is a light on to help illuminate the way. These lamps are our grown up night lights. The darkness can be scary no matter how old you are and without a light in the dark you compromise your safety increasing the likelihood of bumping into things, stumbling, or falling.

In the same manner, God is there for us – 24/7, guiding us by day and by night. Just as God provided guidance and direction for those in the wilderness, he desires to provide that same clear direction for us in our day to day lives. He is always there for us – to light our way and keep us from stumbling – to make us safe.

But, do we remember to leave the light on?

Just like those design shows that provide tips on enhancing a room with light, the Bible reminds us God is the Light of the world. He is the one who enhances our lives. 

Sometimes after we add God to our lives, we neglect to include Him all day, every day.

Sometimes, when the darkness comes, we forget to leave the light on. We allow ourselves to move through life bumping, stumbling, and falling when the answer is so simple. Keep the one true Light on in your life – all the time. 

“Jesus said, ‘I am the Light of the world. Whoever follows me will never walk in darkness but will have the light of life.’”     John 8:12

What a great reminder to Leave the Light On!

“And let us consider how to provoke one another to love and good deeds.”                                                                                                                                               Hebrews 10:24 (NRSV)

There was an occasion where I had to meet with an attorney for business reasons. The attorney was representing someone else. Throughout our conversation, the attorney was condescending, offensive, and persistently pushy. He managed to push all of my buttons. He knew just where to press to push me close to the edge – close to my breaking point. He provoked me to anger. Consequently, I left the meeting feeling broken, mad, and disappointed in myself. 

Of course, later I realized that was the intent. In trying to get what he wanted for his client, the lawyer was willing and knowledgeable enough to know all the right buttons to push in an effort to find the right combination to set me off. 

Now, the scenario with the lawyer is a rare occurrence – thank goodness. But, in other everyday situations I find myself provoked in much the same way, and I am sure that there are times I am the one doing the provoking as well – especially at home.

With those I am closest to I know exactly which buttons to push to get different responses. At times, I continue to push as I would the button on an elevator that fails to stay lit. Pressing and pressing. Most of the time it isn’t intentional. I don’t realize what I am doing until it is too late. The end result is an argument or hard feelings. 

When I consider provoking others and what that means, the first thought is negative: fights, arguments, taunting. The dreaded pushing of buttons. It wasn’t until I encountered this scripture that I understood to provoke someone could be a good thing. 

According to Hebrews 10:24, we should consciously make an effort to incite and provoke others to love and act in favor with one another. 

We always mention random acts of kindness. Maybe those shouldn’t be so random. We need to look for ways to push buttons that cause others to respond lovingly. Pay it forward. 

With this new knowledge, I pray that I will be more conscientious of how I draw reactions from others. I want to provoke goodness from those around me. I also pray others will push my buttons. The buttons that will make me a better person, one who responds with love and grace. 

Pushing buttons has definitely taken on a whole new meaning for me. 

“For we walk by faith and not by sight.”                                        2 Corinthians 5:7 (NASB)

I can’t remember which Indiana Jones movie it is but in one of his many conundrums we see the main character teetering on the edge of a cliff trying to figure out how to get safely to the other side. He only has seconds to make a decision and looking down Indiana cannot see the bottom of this ravine. By happenstance, he kicks a rock which falls into the abyss with no sound of it ever hitting the bottom.

What will our hero do? How will Indiana Jones get out of this situation? 

At the moment when you believe he is doomed, against the better judgment of many cautious viewers, he takes just one step from the ledge. To our disbelief – and relief – Indiana has done it again. He tosses dirt in the distance to reveal what was hidden, a safe passage out of this deadly situation. There is an invisible bridge to the other side of that seemingly bottomless pit.

Wow! What a leap of faith! He couldn’t see the bridge, but he knew it was there. It had to be there. There had to be a way to get to the other side.

Believe it or not – We can learn some valuable lessons from the character, Indiana Jones. We learn about passion, determination, and faith. 

The character has passion that fuels each of his adventures. He too was on a holy journey, just like us. He was driven by curiosity and the search for answers. Where is your passion? What fuels you on your daily journey?

He also shows great determination. He never gives up, no matter how rocky the road may be – remember that huge boulder that almost ran over him? Are you determined enough to press on toward the greater goal even in the face of your greatest fear? He was – snakes, it had to be snakes!

And of course, we see this character demonstrate the meaning of faith. Remember the invisible bridge? Do you have that kind of faith? Enough faith to take that first step toward your goal – even when you don’t see the support that is surely there for you?

The scripture tells us – we walk by faith. That means we have to walk, move, set out knowing that God is there to support us. God is our invisible bridge. He is there bridging the gap for us, making a way for us out of our chaos, supporting us each step of the way even when there seems to be no clear answer or path.

So today, I encourage you along your journey. Make it a faith walk. 

If you are not sure which way to go, if there seems to be no way out, go confidently in faith through prayer. Take that first step and feel the firm foundation under your feet. Feel the support of our God each and every step of the way. 

Remember: Just because you can’t see something doesn’t mean it isn’t there. 

God is your invisible bridge. Let Him bridge your gaps and support you in your next leap of faith.

“So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but what is unseen. For what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal.”   2 Corinthians 4:18

“Look to the Lord and His strength; seek His face always.”               Psalm 105:4 (NIV)

As I encountered various people one day, I made an interesting observation. People rarely make good, solid eye contact.

It impressed upon me the most at the drive thru of a fast food establishment. I promptly pulled up to “the first window” after placing my order. There I was met by a gentleman who took my debit card and gave it back with a receipt without ever looking directly at me. Then at “the next window” a young lady handed me my bag of grub while saying “Have a nice day” in my general direction but still never looking me in the eye.

At that moment, I realized we so often plod through life, day by day, taking very little time to truly see those around us. It seems true eye contact is reserved for those job interview moments, the moments when we really need something from someone, or for those times when we become excited or interested in something.

Experts say making eye contact is a sign of confidence. Have we become so unsteady in our days that we fail to do these little things? Little things that make a huge difference.

How often do you stop and truly make eye contact with those around you? Haven’t noticed? Well, take some time today to be more aware of how often you do this. I bet you will be shocked at how little you really do this one small thing.

Most of the time we are keenly aware of avoiding eye contact, like when we are ashamed, embarrassed, or doing something we know is wrong. Most likely you can easily recall one of those moments, like when you look down and walk away to avoid talking to a certain person. Be honest. I know – I’ve done it too.

Now think of it on a spiritual level. How often do you make eye contact with God? I know you can’t see Him, but – on a spiritual level – do you seek His face? Do you go straight to Him in times of joy and pain? You should. 

Or do you avoid eye contact with God? Do you turn away from God – ashamed of something you’ve done or worried He will call you to do something out of your comfort zone? You shouldn’t.

Don’t avoid God. Nothing we say or do is unforgivable in His eyes and He will equip us for what He calls us to do. Just as we need to be more connected and responsive to people, we need to connect with God – face to face.

We need to look to Him for strength and seek His face always. That is the most important eye contact to make daily. 

I am no expert, but I think that will make you more confident when you come face to face with others.

“As the eye of the slaves look to the hand of their master, as the eyes of a female slave look to the hand of her mistress, so our eyes look to the Lord our God, till He shows His mercy.” 

Psalm 123:2

“… And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, may have power, together with all the Lord’s holy people, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, and to know this love that surpasses knowledge—that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God.”       Ephesians 3:17 – 19 (NIV)

Deep and Wide … Consider these two terms. What comes to mind? 

To me, deep are my troubles. I sometimes find myself over my head. ‘Up to my ears in alligators’ so to speak…up to my knees in mundane tasks, or I’ve just had it up to here!

Wide? Wide are my hips! Wide is the gap I feel between me and my spouse, family, and friends when I feel isolated by my concerns.

Today, when I think of deep and wide I tend to think of the things I find overwhelming. The things I find myself drowning in. The things pulling me under. The things swallowing me whole; however, there was a time when the meaning was different.

As a child there was a song we sang at church and in youth group about God’s love… Deep and Wide. You may know it. It goes like this:

Deep and wide, deep and wide
There’s a fountain flowing deep and wide.
Deep and wide, deep and wide 
There’s a fountain flowing deep and wide. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TXHJg6Y53Oo

We would repeat this verse getting faster and faster and sometimes we sang it over and over eliminating more words with each repetition putting in hmmm so that at the end we were merely humming the tune. The song came with fun hand motions as well. Very upbeat and fun.

So simple. Definitely uplifting.

In reading Ephesians 3:17-19, I realize this should be the focus. Instead of how deep are my troubles… The depth and breadth of God’s love.

Deep … The love of my family and friends. The depth of my love for others.

Wide … How wide are my blessings?! The width of the arms that encircle me with love. 

Instead of finding ourselves overwhelmed by the worldly, temporary things that threaten to consume us, we need to be overwhelmed by the love given to us – first by our Lord and Savior and then through others by Him.

Deep and Wide – there is a fountain overflowing onto you!

Up to my ears in alligators? No way. Up to my ears in Hallelujahs!

“I will praise the name of God with a song; I will magnify Him with thanksgiving.”      Psalm 69:30 (NRSV)

Music is very important in our lives. I would venture to say that we all have a few songs that are special to us. Maybe a break up song reminding us of our first heart break, a happy song used for celebrating, or a love song reflecting the innocence of that first love. When I listen to the radio, songs from the past bring a flood of memories – good and bad. 

As a literature teacher, I assigned my students a project when they completed reading a novel. The project required them to create a soundtrack for the book we read. They had to choose one song that best represented each chapter of the book and explain why it was the best choice. I was always excited to hear those soundtracks. Each was unique with very thoughtful reasons behind each song choice. So much meaning can be found in just 3 minutes of music and lyrics.

Music is important in the Bible too. There are numerous verses referencing song and singing not to mention whole books of songs like Psalm and Song of Solomon. We are called to “make a joyful noise” to “sing to the Lord” and to “praise God with thanksgiving.” 

The history of music is deep and rich making it no surprise that it is at the center of many things we do. We celebrate with music: birthday songs, wedding marches, and graduations with pomp and circumstance. We include music in sadness as well during funerals. Most of us don’t get in the car without turning on the radio or visit the pool or beach without our music on some sort of device.

Considering my appreciation and love for all types of music, I wonder what a soundtrack of my life would include. Would it reflect my love of God and His immeasurable love for me? Would it sound self-centered and greedy? 

I imagine when listening to my life’s soundtrack you would easily be able to hear the high and low points in my journey. Unfortunately, I can’t say it would always reflect a Christ-centered life; however, I hope that I have enough life left to change that. I hope to add more tracks focused on God and how He is working for the good in my life. 

What will the soundtrack of your life include? Is it filled with praise and thanksgiving or self want and self pity? 

Consider what God would want reflected through your life – what meaning does it hold? I am positive there is a song out there for it!