(My beautiful, graceful mother passed away earlier this week. She was diagnosed with dementia over a decade ago and her struggle is over. She was a wonderful example of selflessness and strength. This post is a tribute to her and all that she means to our family.)

“Only be careful and watch yourselves closely so that you do not forget the things your eyes
have seen or let them fade from your heart as long as you live. Teach them to your children and
to their children after them.” Deuteronomy 4:9

After a startling diagnosis years ago, my mother lived with a form of dementia.
For Christmas the year she was diagnosed, I gave her a special journal I found at a local
bookstore. It is structured so the writer can chronicle her own life to pass down in the family. It
gives the writer prompts and space to reflect and document facts, events, and feelings from the
past. I used it as an opportunity to sit with my mom and ask her about her life. I asked the questions
and wrote her responses. All she had to do was share.

Through that process, I learned a lot not only about my mom but about our extended family as
well. I also learned that there are times and feelings we would all like to forget. Not all
memories are happy ones. Some are painful. Yet, each of us is the sum of our experiences.
Looking back over some of mom’s responses I can clearly see how each person, event, and
setting from the past has contributed to the creation of the beautiful, strong woman I admire.

This 4-foot 10 inch, petite lady has never delivered a speech to the masses (not that I know of).
She has never held a position of leadership of a fortune 500 company and she has never
received national or global recognition for her contributions to society. Yet, her life speaks
volumes. The way she lived with grace and dignity, a life centered in Christ, is an example for many. It made her unintentionally influential beyond measure.

As my children are taking flight, spreading their wings, and starting to find their own way in this
world, I find myself wishing I had offered more guidance to them in many areas but especially
regarding their spiritual journey. However, when I watched my mom and considered her daily
example and teachings, I realized the things we teach our children as well as those around us
doesn’t always involve a lecture. It is the way we live, how we react to the events in our lives
that offer the real lessons and will have the greatest impact on others – our children and our
children’s children. As time passes and people, events, and places, fade from our memory, our heart never forgets.

We will have life lessons to teach and pass on to others.

Make plans to pass along the things you have learned to others. You already influence those
around you whether you realize it or not.

The scripture reminds us to be intentional with our influence, to “watch closely” so we “don’t
forget” to let the next generation know what we have seen and heard.

Make a commitment to live intentionally starting today.

“We will tell the next generation about the Lord’s power and His great deeds and the wonderful
things He has done.” Psalms 78:4

You can intentionally tell others, not just through your words but also through your actions.
Live intentionally now and you will continue to impress upon others later in life – It will not
fade, even when we do.

“These commandments I give you today are to be on your hearts. Impress them on your
children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you lie down and when you get up.
Tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads. Write them on the
doorframes of your gates.” Deuteronomy 6:6-9 (NIV)

What have your eyes seen? What is your story? Talk about it. Write it down. Pass it on and be
sure to thank God for those in your life that have taught you the important things about life and
spirituality.

Today, I am especially thankful for my mom – her life, her story, and her heart.

“and this is the confidence that we have toward Him, that if we ask anything according to His will He hears us.”                                          1 John 5:14 (ESV)

Do you know what most experts list as the #1 skill needed for successful communication in the workplace and in life?              

Listening.

In every communication model there is a sender and a receiver. Two people or a whole group cannot talk all at once to communicate clearly – Someone must be the sender and another must be the receiver. Back when each home had a landline phone, you picked up the ‘receiver’ to hear who was calling. Makes sense, right?

But, do you ever feel like you are talking or sharing and no one is listening?

With someone standing in front of you or sitting alongside, do you feel like you aren’t being heard?

This happens to all of us – Especially with all of the distractions and interruptions that we allow in our lives 24/7 (like cell phones, instant messaging, email, Face Book). 

I know I am a much better sender than receiver. I am always trying to think one step ahead and sometimes I can’t turn off the background noise in my brain – the ‘to-do’ list, reminders, replaying the days’ events … it goes on and on.

Just ask my tolerant husband. Occasionally, when he is sharing something he will stop, look at me, and ask, “What did I just say?” I generally respond saying, “I hear you.” In actuality, I heard his words but I didn’t hear what he was saying. I didn’t receive the message.

I know this is an area of improvement for me. I admire those people who are such good listeners that they make you feel like you are the only person on the planet when you speak to them. I want to be that person.

We are reminded in today’s scripture that God is the ultimate listener. He hears our every request. He always receives our message. 

He hears us in the still of the morning. He hears us in the peak of the storm. He hears us in the chaos of our day. 

When we are faced with the difficult times, the heartbreaks, the grief, He hears our cries. When we celebrate the new job, the child who finally gets it together, the ray of sunshine peeking through the clouds, He hears us.  

When no one else is listening, He hears you.

When no one else will listen, He hears you.

What do you have to say today? Do you need to be heard? He is listening.

Dear Lord,

As I intentionally focus on becoming a better listener, help me to be mindful of the model of the best listener ever – You. As I strive to be heard, remind me that you always hear me.

Amen

“They claim to know God, but by their actions they deny him. They are detestable, disobedient and unfit for doing anything good.”      Titus 1:16 (NIV)

When we first started our family and began to raise children, my husband and I found ourselves saying “No, No” quite a bit. We caught ourselves doing this so much with one of our children that we started calling the child Little Baby No No.

No, No – Don’t touch.  

No, No – Don’t put that in your mouth. 

No, No – Don’t use markers on the wall.

No, No – Don’t interrupt.  

Over time, we took the disobedience and the ultimate questioning personally as if the children were making us say No or treating us like the bad guy.

No – you can’t snack an hour before dinner. Why?

No – you can’t wear that. Why?

No – you can’t stay out after 10. Why?

No – you can’t go home with that person after school. Why?

Shamefully, the answer to why was often, “Because I said so. That’s why.”

As the children grew older and wiser, so did we. As parents, we understood that the No was nothing more than a negative response without a foundation. Our growing children wanted to know more about the why and we needed to provide it.

Part of human growth and development is learning discernment. How can we expect children to learn to make good choices for themselves if we don’t give them the knowledge and logic behind those choices?

Our relationship with God is the same. We have the Ten Commandments with the Thou Shalt Nots and an entire collection of books in the Old Testament portion of the Bible, which contain more rules and don’ts. As times have changed over these last 2000 plus years, some of those old No No’s are tested and we begin to question – just like our children. 

We are children of God so questioning is natural. It is part of our Christian growth. God prepared for these times, for our why’s – much better than I prepared for the bigger questions my adult children have thrown my way. He is not a “Because I said so kind of God.” 

He wants us to know why; therefore, God has given us Know Knows – so to speak. He outlined the hard No’s – His nonnegotiables – but He also left us with volumes of the Knows, knowledge and understanding for the ages. 

As humans, we all experience growing pains. Some when we are younger and more when we are older. For this, God equips us explaining the why so we can learn and practice discernment.

Here is my list of God’s Know Knows:

Know Worry. Know God.      Matthew 6:32-34

^“Only people who don’t know God are always worrying about such things. Your Father in heaven knows that you need all of these. But more than anything else, put God’s work first and do what he wants. Then the other things will be yours as well. Don’t worry about tomorrow. It will take care of itself. You have enough to worry about today.”

Know Love. Know God.          1 John 4:7-8

^“Beloved, let us love one another, for love is of God; and everyone who loves is born of God and knows God. He who does not love does not know God, for God is love.” 

Know Grace and Peace. Know God. 2 Peter 1:2-3

“Grace and peace be yours in abundance through the knowledge of God and of Jesus our Lord. His divine power has given us everything we need for a godly life through our knowledge of him who called us by his own glory and goodness.”

Know Contentment and Strength. Know God.         Philippians 4:11-13

“I am not saying this because I am in need, for I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances. I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. I can do all this through him who gives me strength.”

Know Faith. Know God.         Ephesians 2:8

“For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith—and this is not from yourselves, it is the gift of God—”

Know Salvation. Know God.              Romans 10:9

“If you declare with your mouth, ‘Jesus is Lord,’ and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.”

Know Eternal Life. Know God.           John 3:16

“For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.”

Many times in our life we hear No, No. Sometimes it comes from God. Remember this doesn’t have to be negative. Focus on God’s Know Knows which give you a strong foundation of knowledge and wisdom to continue to grow and walk in His way. 

Dear Lord,

Thank you for providing me with direction for the days ahead. I am appreciative of your patience as I learn – sometimes the hard way – and continue to grow in knowledge of You learning the plans You have for my life. I long to be Your little baby Know-Know in the days ahead. 

Amen.