“Look to the Lord and His strength; seek His face always.”               Psalm 105:4 (NIV)

As I encountered various people one day, I made an interesting observation. People rarely make good, solid eye contact.

It impressed upon me the most at the drive thru of a fast food establishment. I promptly pulled up to “the first window” after placing my order. There I was met by a gentleman who took my debit card and gave it back with a receipt without ever looking directly at me. Then at “the next window” a young lady handed me my bag of grub while saying “Have a nice day” in my general direction but still never looking me in the eye.

At that moment, I realized we so often plod through life, day by day, taking very little time to truly see those around us. It seems true eye contact is reserved for those job interview moments, the moments when we really need something from someone, or for those times when we become excited or interested in something.

Experts say making eye contact is a sign of confidence. Have we become so unsteady in our days that we fail to do these little things? Little things that make a huge difference.

How often do you stop and truly make eye contact with those around you? Haven’t noticed? Well, take some time today to be more aware of how often you do this. I bet you will be shocked at how little you really do this one small thing.

Most of the time we are keenly aware of avoiding eye contact, like when we are ashamed, embarrassed, or doing something we know is wrong. Most likely you can easily recall one of those moments, like when you look down and walk away to avoid talking to a certain person. Be honest. I know – I’ve done it too.

Now think of it on a spiritual level. How often do you make eye contact with God? I know you can’t see Him, but – on a spiritual level – do you seek His face? Do you go straight to Him in times of joy and pain? You should. 

Or do you avoid eye contact with God? Do you turn away from God – ashamed of something you’ve done or worried He will call you to do something out of your comfort zone? You shouldn’t.

Don’t avoid God. Nothing we say or do is unforgivable in His eyes and He will equip us for what He calls us to do. Just as we need to be more connected and responsive to people, we need to connect with God – face to face.

We need to look to Him for strength and seek His face always. That is the most important eye contact to make daily. 

I am no expert, but I think that will make you more confident when you come face to face with others.

“As the eye of the slaves look to the hand of their master, as the eyes of a female slave look to the hand of her mistress, so our eyes look to the Lord our God, till He shows His mercy.” 

Psalm 123:2